Lately I am particularly perplexed by the popular notion that people who have died would want us to be happy.
I’m sure that’s true.
But one thing I know for sure about the person I have most recently loved and lost is that, above all, she would want me to feel undeniably ALIVE.
There is not much else I know of more full of life than grief.
Grief is *exquisite*.
Have you ever seen the sadness of it not mixed with deep love and care?
It’s not something to fix or get over.
It’s something to be with.
That’s why I am letting my well deserved broken heart be just what it is.
And all the while, I’m so grateful to have known, loved and deeply connected with someone so hard to lose.
I will never be the same.